Maintaining a guy's interest; hymenoplasty

My partner and I had known each other for about four years or so, when another Aunty (not an aunt) once gave me the advice to marry him quickly, or else he'd lose interest.

Her instinct was completely the opposite of mine, and so strategically dumb, I thought, that it left me flabbergasted. My own sentiment was to never, ever give in to a guy -- because if you do they'll lose interest. Aunty wasn't completely stupid, mind. She managed to bag Uncle, and was married to him for over 30 years before he passed away. So go figure.

I guess it's a matter of style. Aunty was in favour of quick, quick, quick! Because KL is a quick, quick, quick! kind of place. I'm a slow-burn kind of gal. I like to assess, ask a lot of questions. Get active with people, feel things out.

Besides, it doesn't take much to maintain a guy's interest.

But if I said any more, I'd be betraying trade secrets of the sisterhood, so I won't go there.

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Strangely enough, the NY Times ran a story today about women of Arab descent living in France restoring their virginity through hymenoplasty so they were virgins again on their wedding night. Some of those women were about to marry men they'd never slept with before, while others married men they were already sleeping with. I understand what motivates them; but it doesn't mean I don't find it bizarre.